I'm Only Human

Right now I’m listening to Brandy’s (who I happen to love) “Human” on her album and it inspired the title. I don’t know where this is going to take me but I’m going to keep tapping on my key board.
Have you ever loved someone so much only to end up losing him/her because of a silly mistake that was probably made out of bad judgement? Or did u lose that person because of something that could have been avoided and you have blamed and are still blaming yourself? You ask urself if u could have prevented it, u wonder why it’s so hard for that person to look past the hurt and forgive, u cry and cry but the damage is quite irrevocable. Sometimes, you don’t even hurt the person and for no reason u end up being hurt and you lose a relationship that u think would have lasted forever and ever. Sometimes we refuse to let go because we are afraid of spending our future without that person, we’ve given so much of our love, time, energy, finances and have sacrificed a whole lot to the growth of that relationship.
It hurts but in Brandy’s words “I’m perfectly human”.

The first book of Corinthians 13:4-7 says (of course u could go thru the whole chapter later)

“Love is patient and kind, it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope and patience never fail”.
Love is that extra special feeling that grows deep within our heart, soul and spirit. It is a feeling that touches our very essence as humans which more often than not change the way we view things and it happens when we least expect it. True love is above pettiness, creed, religion or tribe. It is about friendship and FORGIVENESS, it is about responsibility. With true love sex does not matter because it is not a condition, sex as most of us have discovered does not make a relationship. Love is also about SACRIFICE; it is honey “I love to sleep directly under the fan but you can have it” these little things matter.

Does it seem difficult? If u have truly loved someone, it is not difficult is it? Even when it hurts, you look past it and forgive, if he stumbles, you reach out a hand. Now imagine feeling like this for someone and the person wakes up one day and pulls the rug under your feet (literally and figuratively of course), you are devastated, you lock yourself up and cry and if a guy, you vent or even cry depending on who is concerned. But you know what? If you love someone so much and that person cannot love you the way you deserve, trust me, u do not deserve him/her, you are indeed better off alone. Let’s get over the “he’ll/she’ll come around thought, if he doesn’t love you now, you think you can make anyone love you? Hell No! He / she will have to make a conscious decision to love you the way you deserve to be loved and not patronize you because you are nice. I would rather be single than have someone patronize me thank you very much. Love is not camouflage.

Love is I know his weaknesses but I love him, love is I know she’s vain but I love her, love is I know he’s not rich but I love him, love is she hurt me but I’ll forgive her, love is sacrificial, love is I hurt you and I’m sorry, I’ll make it up to you, love is you hurt, I hurt; love is you cry, I cry, love is you’ve made mistakes so have I, let’s turn back the hands of time, love is you have a past so do I but let’s work towards the future after all we are humans.

What are the things we cannot forgive? Is it lies? Is it betrayal? Is it the fact that he/she slept with your best friend? I know some things are very HARD to forgive especially since we are not Jesus Christ but people have done it. Or does it mean that if you are married, you'll file for a divorce? I’m not saying that if the person does the same thing over and over again, you'll keep turning the other cheek No! That’s outright stupidity but then again, Jesus said to forgive seventy times seven which is really throughout our lives. However, I don’t want to go there for the sake of national peace and security before you guys will say I’ve started again or even call me an idealist.

Let’s give it some deep thought, nothing in life is easy, even love, we all have to work hard towards it and we should always bear in mind that we are all humans and tend to make mistakes even costly mistakes. Love is all encompassing of kindness, forgiveness, patience, empathy, friendship, compassion, understanding…the list goes on and on.
If you’ve been hurt before, if ur heart has bled for a lost love and if u’re still bleeding, difficult as it may seem, life does go on and I’m sure the person in question has moved on. Look on the bright side, maybe that person is not made for you. I’m sure most of us have heard this saying “if u love something, set it free and if it’s meant for u, it will definitely come back”. Besides life is too short to spend it pinning for someone who’s taken you for non-existent. Time heals all wounds. Live your life; try new things, you never what’s lurking around the corner. But always remember that he/she’s not the best thing that happened to you rather, you’re the best thing he never had.
God help us in the quest for true love.